Throughout our lives, we have many relationships. We have love relationships, family relationships, work relationships, community relationships and the list can go on. For the most part, these relationships are fluid. We fall in and out of love. If we’re lucky, our children leave the proverbial nest. We change jobs.
There is one relationship that should be constant in every woman’s life. Call it your girl squad or your BFF, every woman needs a strong female friendship.
Emerging research over the past few years spotlights the importance of women having strong female friendships and their benefits especially as we get older. While men and women complement each other, we thrive on strong relationships with our girlfriends.
As we mature, it’s no longer about the number of people around us, but the quality. It’s being with women who “get it” and “get you”, who are non-judgmental but will also be open and honest For me, my girl squad consists of 2 women who provide the mental and emotional support and stimulation that I need. They are my sister BJ and my BFF Elvee.
So why are having strong girlfriends so important?
Girlfriends have a distinctive way of reading emotions and intuitively recognizing what needs to be done then acting on it whether it’s giving advice or lending an ear. We understand each other, we validate each other. We laugh together, we cry together then we laugh some more. We tell each other when we have food in our teeth or when our shirt is on backward and we share lasting memories and life experiences.
Strong female friendships
Most importantly though, having a strong girl friendship improves and enhances your quality of life as well as increases your longevity.
This beneficial effect of friendship was felt whether the friends lived near or far. An article published on the New York Times website states that women feel they can count on their friends to pull through for them no matter what they are struggling within their lives.
Most emotional and mental strength comes from deep bonds with strong females in one’s life. Over time, we become our friends as we mirror their thoughts, beliefs, and actions. It is believed that we are the average of the five people we spend most of our time with. Therefore, we should choose wisely and with intention.
Treasure your girlfriends, because they are the backbone of your support system.
A great and easy dish for an afternoon with the BFF!
Broccoli florets, cauliflower, brussell sprouts cut in half, baby carrots, onions, green, red and orange peppers, zucchini, and summer squash.
Dice the veggies into bite size pieces. Stir fry veggiess of your choice using a healthy fat, ie: olive oil and low sodium soy sauce and teriyaki sauce. Serve in a pita.
Try with a slice of provolone melted onto the veggies.